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Sunday, March 9, 2014
Saturday, March 8, 2014
Thought for the Day: This week on Facebook, one of my therapist Facebook friends, Mark Hundley, shared this amazing video of a Japanese Dance troupe that uses light in a hypnotizing way. I decided that I had to share it here today. I hope you enjoy it and share it with friends. It is one of the most fascinating choreographies I have ever seen! Have a great weekend!
Performamce & Choreography :Saya Watatani , Maki Yokoyama
Director : Nobuyuki Hanabusa
Animator : Seiya Ishii , Nobuyuki Hanabusa
Music : Nobuyuki Hanabusa
Friday, March 7, 2014
|I've decided to add a bit of humor to the #FF Fabulous Finds each week. Here's one for all parents|
Thought for the Day: Here are my #FF Fabulous Finds for this week. They vary from one of the most inspiring acceptance speeches at the Oscars, to new forms of treatment for mental illness which may soon replace the reliance on medication, to a wonderful new invention which can help prevent date rape, new research on music, and a new site that helps parents learn about ways to protect their children online. Have a great weekend!
1) Oscars 2014: Watch Lupita Nyong’o's Emotional Acceptance Speech by Lily Rothman Time Entertainment
3) Scientists develop straw that detects date rape drugs by HANNAH ROBERTS MailOnline
Thursday, March 6, 2014
Thought for the Day: When I prepare Thursday's Psychology Trivia posts, I find a topic and look for research that supports the answer. I have been thinking about today's post for some time, but had trouble doing the research. Here's the question and I will explain why I went ahead and posted it:
True or False: Life Coaching Is Equal or Better Than PsychotherapyThe answer is: False. Although I can find many studies which report the efficacy of various types of psychotherapy, the research related to life coaching is meager and unreliable. There are virtually no regulations or ethical guidelines for life coaches. Anyone can claim to be an expert. There are good ethical life coaches, but it is hard to know which ones are competent and well trained unless they are also trained licensed psychotherapists. There are only a few programs that offer certificates in life coaching and many training programs are no more than intensive workshops.
This may be surprising to many readers since life coaches are extremely adept marketers and very skilled story tellers. Their websites are slick, clever and include all kinds of testimonials. If you base your decision on their claims to bring success, wealth and happiness into your life, you might believe that what they have to offer is equal or even better than psychotherapy to help you change your life. Psychologists and other trained therapists are restrained by ethics and law in how they promote their work. Until recently, they were not allowed to advertise.
Life and executive coaches have been so successful at convincing the public that they have all the answers for life's challenges that many psychologists and social workers have taken an, "if you can't beat them, join them" stance and have started "life coaching" businesses alongside their therapy practices. In life coaching, these therapists can become advice givers as opposed to therapists. Therapists, as opposed to coaches, help their clients work on and resolve their problems using tested treatment techniques. Many of these therapists who have tried on the coaching hat, have reverted back to psychotherapy, since lasting real changes tend to be more possible when using psychotherapy as opposed to coaching. To the general public, coaching may seem to be the easier route with less stigma attached, just "tell me what to do and my life will improve." The techniques they teach are loosely based on some psychological principles, some work others do not, since the "experts" may not have adequate training. As the saying goes, "a little bit of knowledge can be a dangerous thing."
I visited a website of a highly successful life coach while thinking about writing this post. There was an article proposing that they had the one secret thing to do to changing your life. The answer was finding a way to turn work into play. The author had been unhappy in their work, quit their job and found bliss by only doing things that felt like play. Although this may sound like a way to improve your life, many people would end up bankrupt if they followed this advice without a backup plan.
The life coaching field has become like self help groups on steroids. There are certainly times when self help or coaching can be a valuable adjunct to psychotherapy. I often refer people to AA when they are recovering from alcoholism or to a coach who has found ways to cope with ADHD. These kinds of work can be enlightening and helpful, however, they are not replacements for psychotherapy. When psychological issues get in the way of the process of overcoming a problem, life coaches may not have the skills to help their clients.
A few months ago, a new client came to see me. When she saw that I had written a self help book she was worried that I was a life coach. She had been disillusioned and had wasted years and exorbitant amounts of money on life coaches. She, like many people, had been enticed at free or low cost presentations into purchasing expensive courses, workshops, and high priced platinum level individual coaching, which failed to help her resolve her issues. Since starting to work in psychotherapy for the past few months, she is making steady progress on achieving the changes she wants in her life.
Although we all would like quick miraculous fixes for our struggles in life, real change takes time and effort. A good psychotherapist has spent years in school, followed by years of supervised work and continuing education. Psychologists, psychiatrists and licensed social workers must maintain their licenses, malpractice insurance, follow ethical guidelines in their work and in he promotion of their practice. If you are unhappy with things in your life, any licensed psychotherapist's life experience and clinical training and expertise make them more qualified than someone who is just a life coach.
Wednesday, March 5, 2014
Thought for the Day: Today's Words of Wisdom are my thoughts related to Facebook and social networking. What made Facebook an exciting "social" phenomenon for me as a psychologist was that it was an easy, grassroots way to communicate with friends, family and fans. I believe in using social media for social good and facebook is making it increasingly difficult to do so. Lately however, I have been questioning whether it is worth posting anything on my facebook page. If anything, my posts have become more sophisticated with better graphics and content over the years. However, although I have over 1200 fans, unless I pay to boost posts, only 4 - 12 fans see them at all.
The change happened gradually over the last few months. In the past, 80 -150 fans would see an average post depending on the content, day of the week and the time of day it was posted. Lately, only 4 or 12 fans actually see a post. It is clear that Facebook is trying to get fan page owners to pay for exposure. When I run an event or am speaking on the radio, I am happy to pay to boost a post, however, it feels unfortunate that people who have chosen to follow my page do not even see my regular daily updates which I work hard to make informative and helpful. Frankly, it is becoming an "anti-social" social networking site!
If you want facebook to work as a grassroots "Social" network again, I think you can try to make a difference. In the 60's being a social activist meant getting up and out into the streets to protest. In this day and age, to be a social networking activist, you can do it from the comfort of your home, on your phone, ipad or computer. If you see a post (on facebook and other social networking sites, too) that matters to you don't just read it passively. Give it a like, comment or share it with others. These actions will insure that you see the posts from these sites in your stream. If you take online social action, I believe it will make a difference. Visit the sites you have not seen in your stream lately and like some posts. That will insure that Facebook starts showing their posts in your stream again.
If you stay a passive observer, you will soon find that your facebook stream is nothing more than a flow of paid advertisements. Facebook, in it's push for building a stock market presence may simply lose the unique nature of social networking which made it popular in the first place. I believe that social networking is an asset when used properly, but other sites will replace Facebook if they are not careful. Google+ is far more user friendly and may be the next Facebook.
I would love to hear your thoughts & comments on this subject. Authors, psychologists, musicians, nonprofit organizations, if you have a Facebook fan page, have you noticed this phenomenon? What are you doing to combat it?
Tuesday, March 4, 2014
Monday, March 3, 2014
Thought for the Day: I'm not sure if today's post is motivational or simply educational, but yesterday I saw a series of photos on Huffington Post which really upset me. As a psychologist over the years I have worked with children, adults and parents struggling with the issues related to adoption. It is one of the most complex issues that takes parents and children a lifetime to resolve. At each milestone in an adoptee's life they struggle to understand why they were given up for adoption. It leads to questions of self doubt, feelings of abandonment, and concerns that they may be unloveable even when they are raised in wholesome loving families. As small children, they may not understand the meaning of adoption, even when they are told that they were special and that their adoptive parents chose them, they have questions as to why their biological parents would give them to their adoptive parents. They wonder why their biological parents did not make the effort to raise them. As adults, they may begin to understand that sometimes, giving up a child is a loving sacrifice. It is hard on any parent to accept the fact that others would be more able to give the child a better life.
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